But those who learn to understand and work with their anger—rather than fight it—tend to feel more confident and in control. If handled the right way, anger can actually help you.

Dear Abby gives advice to a man who realized he is having anger issues in his relationship just like his father did with his mother.

DEAR ABBY: I have anger issues that were passed down among the men in my family. My mother is a strong woman and wouldn’t let my father get away with too much, but still, the impact is there.